At some point in our lives we are lucky enough to find ourselves in romantic relationships that mean something to us. Each one is special and brings something different to our world that wouldn’t be there otherwise. The ultimate relationships are the ones where we think to ourselves, this could be the one that lasts a lifetime. Every relationship grows in stages and to proceed past each one we must ask the ultimate question: do I love thee?
The first stage of love is the initial contact. It’s those early days of sipping coffees and going for walks where talk is the most important order of the day. We begin to get comfortable around this new person, growing closer both mentally and physically. You discuss your dreams and your goals in life. You run through your list of likes and dislikes. You open your life and begin to let your true self become exposed. It doesn’t take long before you’re asked to face the decision of becoming more serious. The next step involves a commitment. It’s the first time you’ll have to answer the question: do I love thee?
“Cupid’s arrow has struck and lodged itself firmly in place. To pull it out would be disastrous.”
A yes secures you a serious relationship. Thinking only of your own well-being has come to an end. Your dating profile headline changes to, “Temporarily Out of Service” and phone calls from your ex aren’t as readily answered. Daily decisions are based on the lives of two people. Your plans for the weekend mean you’ll always have company. Your long days at work will end with a comforting voice that sooths your angst. The joys of your successes are shared and the feeling is multiplied by two. Time passes and the person who was a stranger only months before becomes closer to you than your best friend. Then the time arrives when a decision must be made. Are you willing to drastically alter your life for the person you’re with? Ask yourself the question: do I love thee?
Your next step means two lives now become one.Planning your days together turns to planning years. Your resources are doubled in every respect. Your monetary obligations are shared with theirs and your living situation becomes their living situation. Your friends are their friends and their friends are yours. You embrace their family no matter what your impressions of them may be. Your world opens to a degree that goes beyond anything you could experience alone. Life for you is changing forever and forever becomes the question of the day. To answer, you must ask yourself: do I love thee?
A yes means you are joined together through a shared desire and knowledge that your worlds would not exist without each other. This is the goal of anyone searching for love. This is the point where you realize that everything you’ve done has led to this and for this. Cupid’s arrow has struck and lodged itself firmly in place. To pull it out would be disastrous. You’ve succeeded in building a life that many will never experience. The answer to the question is a resounding yes. Then you must ask, with every waking day: how can I love thee more?